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comes from you, the women and family members who have made it through one or countless deployments.
Send us your tips and ideas, we would love to share them.
Contact us at: admin@attagirlgifts.com
A few thoughts of my own:
1. Set a Goal - there is a reason we have a Personal Goal Atta Girl! You don't want to be at the end of your life
wishing you could get those six, ten, twelve or more months back because you wasted them waiting. The goal
doesn't have to be extravagant, for me, it was laying a patio. For you it may be bigger or smaller, but set a goal
and work to achieve it.
2. Change how you measure time - I stopped looking at the calendar and instead starting looking at when the
milk and eggs would be out of date. And then, you guessed it, I set a goal to accomplish before that date arrived.
You would be surprised at how fast deployment time decreases and you are looking at your list of things you
want to do before he gets home and thinking there just isn't enough time to do them!
3. Don't knock him off the pedestal you put him on - There is a temptation when your husband is deployed to
elevate him to mythic status. We all think we have the most romantic husband, the best dad, the sexiest man
alive (and may I be so bold as to say that I really do!) He goes off on deployment and we place our wonderful
husbands on this pedestal of unrealistic expectations. And then he comes home and well...let's just say there is
a readjustment period. Remember ladies, this is our doing, not theirs. The adjustment is for us to do, not them.
Don't be tempted with that pedestal, remember he is human, as are you.
4. Be aware of your own desert cami pedestal - There is something that happens when people find out your
husband is deployed to Iraq, and I'm sure the same thing happens when he is in Afghanistan. It's hard to
describe what that 'something' is, but at times, it can be palpable. You are constantly in people's thoughts, their
prayers, their words, their actions. They call to check in on you, how are you doing, how are you feeling, can I do
anything for you?
You may not realize it, but you get used to it, that more than the usual 'touching base'...and then when he comes
home safe and sound, it stops. Everyone is thrilled for you but the phone calls stop, the checking in on you
stops, the extra help stops. And you can't blame anyone for it but don't be surprised if you miss that little bit of
extra 'connection' you used to get. You won't realize it until it's gone. Let it serve as a reminder of how much you
are loved, and then do the reaching out yourself.
1. Set a Goal - there is a reason we have a Personal Goal Atta Girl! You don't want to be at the end of your life
wishing you could get those six, ten, twelve or more months back because you wasted them waiting. The goal
doesn't have to be extravagant, for me, it was laying a patio. For you it may be bigger or smaller, but set a goal
and work to achieve it.
2. Change how you measure time - I stopped looking at the calendar and instead starting looking at when the
milk and eggs would be out of date. And then, you guessed it, I set a goal to accomplish before that date arrived.
You would be surprised at how fast deployment time decreases and you are looking at your list of things you
want to do before he gets home and thinking there just isn't enough time to do them!
3. Don't knock him off the pedestal you put him on - There is a temptation when your husband is deployed to
elevate him to mythic status. We all think we have the most romantic husband, the best dad, the sexiest man
alive (and may I be so bold as to say that I really do!) He goes off on deployment and we place our wonderful
husbands on this pedestal of unrealistic expectations. And then he comes home and well...let's just say there is
a readjustment period. Remember ladies, this is our doing, not theirs. The adjustment is for us to do, not them.
Don't be tempted with that pedestal, remember he is human, as are you.
4. Be aware of your own desert cami pedestal - There is something that happens when people find out your
husband is deployed to Iraq, and I'm sure the same thing happens when he is in Afghanistan. It's hard to
describe what that 'something' is, but at times, it can be palpable. You are constantly in people's thoughts, their
prayers, their words, their actions. They call to check in on you, how are you doing, how are you feeling, can I do
anything for you?
You may not realize it, but you get used to it, that more than the usual 'touching base'...and then when he comes
home safe and sound, it stops. Everyone is thrilled for you but the phone calls stop, the checking in on you
stops, the extra help stops. And you can't blame anyone for it but don't be surprised if you miss that little bit of
extra 'connection' you used to get. You won't realize it until it's gone. Let it serve as a reminder of how much you
are loved, and then do the reaching out yourself.
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